waiting
a friend was supposed to call me before 10am and then i was going to meet her and her sister at their church to paint vbs decorations. here it is past noon and i havent heard a thing from either of them.
ive spent the past 2.5 hours diddling about online and in the apartment, trying to not become too wrapped up in anything in case she called.
did you know im result #4 in a google search for honda shadow sabre?
10 JUL
2004
2004
2 Love Notes
Somewhere around 10:30, I would get on with whatever I had originally put aside to offer her my help. Then, *if* she ever called, I would say, "Oh, I'm sorry. When you didn't call by ten thirty, I expected our plans must be off for today. I'm afraid I'm tied up with something else right now. Could we do it next weekend?"
If she complains that no, it can't be put off, I would once again apologize and reiterate that I can't make it right now. I would not tell her what it is that I'm doing -- it's not *her* place to weigh *my* priorities. If she does, her rudely-delayed project will inevitably come out on top unless I'm busy rescuing babies from a burning apartment building.
If all of this is said sincerely and tactfully (not sarcastically), she'll express some minor regret and that will be the end of it, no real harm done. This way, a chunk of your day isn't essentially wasted by her rudeness, and she's likely to be more considerate next time. If she never calls at all, she misses out on the learning experience, but at least you got to use two of those 2.5 hours productively.
i thought 2.5 hours spent online was useful time. silly me.
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